Updated: May 24, 2021
I would encourage everyone to use some form of lubricant during any sexual play. Lubricants aren’t only designed for women with dryness or discomfort during penetration.
Even the most savvy of sex loving women have a favourite lubricant in their bedside drawer, that they use regularly to allow for more pleasant touch to the vulva, longer sexual play and penetration without running dry.
Let’s be honest our natural vulva and vaginal lubrication does not exactly always correlate to our state of sexual arousal.
Pertinent questions you want to ask yourself before sourcing a lubricant: 1. Am I prone to vaginal infections or vulval irritations? 2. Will I be using a condom? 3. Am I going to use a sex toy – particularly a silicon sex toy during sexual play? 4. Do I dislike having to reapply lubricant? Do I find reapplication interruptive? 5. Am I worried about staining the sheets with the lubricant? 6. Will the lubricant be washed quickly with water let’s say I’m having shower sex? 7. Are you trying to conceive?
So namely there are 3 large groups of lubricants – Water based lubricants – Silicon based lubricants – Oil based lubricant
Water based lubricants: • Most common • Washed away easily with water • Might require reapplication during sexual engagement as they are not particularly long lasting • Safe to use on silicon-based sex toys “they do not cause degradation of the silicon material that these sex toys are made out of”
Silicon based lubricants: • Really long lasting “will unlikely require reapplication hence also great if engaging in anal intercourse” “They are best to use during shower sex as they are not easily washed away with water alone – removal requires some soap” “suitable for anal intercourse” • Cause damage to silicon material “causing abrasion in the silicon material that some sex toys are made from – important not to have such damage as any grooves or abrasions to the sex toys creates little nidus for bacteria to grow and increases the risk of transmission of infections like STDs.” • Hypoallergenic
Oil based lubricants: • Unsafe for condoms as they cause breakages • Stains bed sheet • Inexpensive • Great as a lubricant to double up as massage oils “can include synthetic oils like Vaseline or natural oils like coconut oil”
Look at the ingredients in your lube and as much as you can, avoid lubricants that contain the following…and here’s why:
Let’s take a look at the most common lube available in pharmacies and supermarket and lo and behold it contains 3 of the above ingredients that you might want to avoid.